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I was asked to share my story on this site because Janis is a friend of mine and I trust her. I haven’t talked about this in a long time and I feel like it’s still so new even though it happened almost twenty years ago. I was raped by someone I thought I could trust but he turned out to be a liar. I still can’t talk about the details and this isn’t a place to do so anyway but I will say that Edipus makes me feel hopeful. It’s taken me years to understand that all men do not rape. Every man that I see is not my future rapist and doesn’t want to hurt me. I would love to see men at this concert because I know so many other survivors of rape who still aren’t convinced that men care but they want to be. I hope men come to this and I hope some celebrity has the courage so say something. Rape isn’t easy to get over but the wounds don’t have to be so fresh.